Monday, September 22, 2014

ASPIRE APP

With special thanks to Robin McGraw ( Dr.Phil's wife) there is now an app for  smart phones,  iphones and android which allow someone who is a victim of  domestic abuse to get help. It doesn't replace calling 911, but at least if  one does not have a land line, or is not  at home, there is a way to contact someone or the authorities.

Here is the link. Please read and share with anyone  whom you feel needs to know....and honestly, we all need to  know this information.

https://www.whengeorgiasmiled.org/the-aspire-news-app/

Sunday, September 21, 2014

10th Cocktail Fundraiser

                                            

                                                         Kelly-Anne's family 
                                                      
                                                                 and the
                                                       
                                                    Quebec Lifesaving Society

                                               invite you to attend the 10th annual

                                              Kelly-Anne Drummond Foundation 

                                                       cocktail fundraiser

                                                                    on

                                          Saturday, October 18th at 6:00 p.m.
                                                                   at
                                Dollard des Ormeaux Aquatic Centre banquet hall

                                               12001 boul.de Salaberry
                  
                                            Dollard des Ormeaux, Quebec


Westjet Airlines has graciously donated to the cocktail,  two free airline tickets to anywhere in the world where Westjet flies. The drawing will take place during the cocktail for all guests who have paid admission and are in attendance. One lucky winner will win the tickets  !

There will also be a silent auction. If you or you know a company who would like to donate to the silent auction, please email me through this blog or call the Lifesaving society.


tickets are $50.00 each
call 514-252-3100 to reserve your tickets, or to donate.

Saying No to Violence

This past week the City of Pierrefond's Mayor Jim Beis took the time out  to place flowers at the monument in Grier Park, Pierrefonds which is dedicated to Anne-Marie Edward ( victim of Polytechic), Janet Kuchinsky ( unsolved homicide) and Kelly-Anne. The mayor wanted to mark the anniversairy of these three  very special Pierrefonds residents. I was very touched  with the Mayor's gentle and sincere words. I was surprised when  he said he knew Kelly-Anne. I guess I a still leaning  even to today how many people she knew and how she  touched the lives of the  people she met.

The message in the centre on the pristine ground is clear  to everyone who walks by it. The words are there...say no to violence. The three monuments remind us of lives taken way before their time.

As my friends rallied around me with the autumn breeze touching my face and the sun shining, I felt loved and honored that a part of  the day for the mayor, was set aside to reflect and remember.

I am very thankful that again my daughter Kelly-Anne is remembered.

May her memory and that of Anne-Marie and Janet be eternal.

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Video: Find Your Courage

Here is the link to the film which I made with an incredible write/producer a couple of summers ago. This  project was a turning point in my life and journey towards healing. I would like to share it with you.  For me I was grateful to be allowed to express myself, hoping that if the film touches only one person, a life may be saved.

http://www.ingridberzinsleuzy.com/#!video/cm8a

Monday, September 1, 2014

That Smile

Life has been somewhat stressful these days. Hubby and I are asking a lot of questions and looking for answers regarding a  pending move and business issues. Jules believes strongly that things are the way they are because they are suppose to be that way. I on the other hand am asking why and how come ?

Last night I was blessed to have Kelly-Anne again in my dream. There she was about 10 years old with  that bright beautiful smile on her face. Her curly locks were  bouncing around her face and she was talking away. I cannot recollect what she was saying but she was standing next to a door which opened. Since her death I have had frequent door opening dreams. I can only believe that she was giving me a  message that she was aware of what is going on in my life and that another door was opening for me.

I awoke this morning feeling relieved and confident. Kelly-Anne in my dreams reaffirms to me that she is aware of what is going on here on earth. I feel her message is telling me not to be afraid and to move  forward with grace and dignity.

I am very fortunate to have this special relationship with her. Even from heaven we still communicate. I feel that  I have been blessed to be able to feel  her presence. I do not have this type of relationship with  any other family member or friend who has passed. I carry Kelly-Anne, well let me re phrase that....Kelly-Anne carries me each day. As she supported, coached and loved me on  earth, she is still doing the same from heaven.

Saturday, August 30, 2014

Domestic Abuse 100 Years Ago

Today for some strange reason, I was thinking about my grandmother who came to Canada in the early 1900's. Here  she was in a foreign country starting out her life as a new Canadian. She married at an early age and had  her children. Her husband was a peddler and they traveled  from town to town  trying to make a living. My grandfather was an  alcoholic and died at an early age leaving my  grandmother to raise and provide for their children.

In my grandmother's later years of  life, she recount how she was subjected to the beatings of her husband. Eighty-five years later she was finally  letting out her anger which I realize now she had  bottled up all that time. Today we could say that she was a victim of domestic abuse, but back a hundred years ago, nobody used that term. What went on between four walls was private and many women like  my grandmother did not know any differently. It was part of being a wife where they cooked, cleaned, raised the children and was there to provide to all  the needs of the husband no matter how she was treated .I can only think that  my grandmother must of  felt very  alone.

The secrets, the embarrassment. I do not think it is any different today. Years ago an abused women lived in silence.Who would of  believed her? If she had told anyone, they would  of responded to her by saying that the husband was just having a bad day or you should help your husband more.Women then did not have the capacity to leave their husbands. There weren't any shelters for women and children. Women were married for life no matter how they were treated. It was  part of being a wife. They accepted it.

Fast track 100 years plus later, we are still afraid to speak out. We are still living in silence and accepting the abuse.  But things have changed. Today we have  the capacity and the resources to get out of an abusive relationship. We are aware, we talk about domestic abuse, we have shelters to  house  women and children. We have groups that support victims of domestic violence. But women are still living in fear.

As we approach the 10 th anniversary of the  horrific  murder that took Kelly-Anne's, I ask each and everyone of you who may be in an abusive relationship to please get help. He is not going to change nor will you change him. A man that beats his wife is not  a man who loves his wife no matter how her comes around  the following day and tells her he loves her and that it won't happen again. It is not love ! We deserve  to be loved and we are all capable of having a  loving relationship with someone who genuinely loves us for who we are. It is possible. I live it each day of my life  so I know it exists.

I would like to remind you that  dialing 911 from your home phone will bring the police directly to  your house. You don't even have to say a word. I also understand that  in the USA one can text 911 and receive help. I do not  know if it works in Canada but I will find out and post once I get a confirmation.

Meanwhile, please break the silence on  domestic abuse.

Monday, August 25, 2014

Being Innovated

Our house has been for sale for two months short of a year. People visit and are never to been seen again. It really is frustrating. All we  want to do is sell and re locate in another  town where my  hubby works. We would be closer to Kim and her family too. There are so many houses and condos on the market, therefore it really is a buyer's market. We seem to have exhausted ourselves trying to find a suitable buyer.

Potential buyers seems to want everything  perfect.  I have researched  many any hour looking at various houses on the Internet. Black, red, grey, green walls and doors. Imagine the many coats of paint that would have to cover all those very colorful walls? People are so concerned about what they  don't have to do in a house. What house is walk in perfect? Unless you custom build your own house, you  will not find perfection anywhere.

This whole house thing brings me  asking myself...how would Kelly-Anne have dealt with this issue? What innovated idea would she have put together to sell her home? I am still looking for that answer. I know there is  a solution but just can't yet seem to put my finger on it.

Hopefully, Kelly-Anne will send me a message in her own angel way. Kelly-Anne was always solution orientated. So am I,, but this  house selling business has to be  one of the biggest obstacles and challenges I have ever had to deal with. I stress out while Jules takes in all in his stride. Wish I could be more like him.

Well tomorrow is another day......